It’s time to let go.
I cried the day I heard the news that he had won you over. I was hysterical the day he moved into the house. I wanted our lives to be better too, but why him? Couldn’t you see what I saw? How did he bamboozle you into believing he was going to save us?
I want you to know I gave him a chance. I did it for myself as much as for you. I wanted to believe he was a man of his word. I wanted to be proven wrong for the sake of all of us. I kept hoping. I kept waiting.
I know you needed someone to believe in, I get it. We all do. By the time he had come along, you had spent a long time feeling unsupported, neglected, invisible. He touted your value everywhere he went. He said he had your back. He saw you. He recognized those special things about you, and something clicked. This is the guy, my guy, the guy I’ve been waiting for, you told yourself. You told me, my sisters and brothers, this guy’s going to change our lives.
That day he moved in, I felt you chose him over us. It broke my heart. I was scared. His reputation proceeded him. I knew about his escapades and his shady dealings. You knew too, but you wanted so badly to believe he’d changed, that you dismissed it.
I’m not mad at you – I get it, I watched it. He recognized your vulnerability, and he played you like a violin. He’s done it before to others. It’s not your fault, he’s a master at this game of playing people. He makes no excuses and just brushes his past off as other people talking shit about him. He calls them lies, twisted truths inspired by envy and jealously to make him look bad, inventions to punish him unfairly.
There have been many others who were romanced by his unconventional charms, who have come to see the light. It was hard for them to walk away, to accept that he was no good for them. They once clung to hope that he would come through on the promises, care for them, put them first, but time after time he failed to even try. So, they did what they had to do – they let go.
In my heart, I hoped you would see the truth. I knew he would show you his dark side and I believed that you would snap out of the trance he had you under, and that you would come to see that he tricked you. You weren’t the first and wouldn’t be the last.
I believed that sooner or later, you would feel regret at choosing him. I hoped that when that happened, you’d be able to admit it, and throw him out of the house. I cried so many times waiting for you to gain the clarity and the humility to do what I knew was right.
For years, I watched as you stood by your man. A man who does not care a thing for you, or us. It’s all about him. It’s been that way from the beginning. He was never nice to us, or you for that matter. He was supposed to be there for all of us. But like many before, he knew I could see through him from the beginning, so he made it his job to divide us. And as the rivalry between him and I grew bigger and uglier, you stood by his side. You became blind to his divisiveness, his selfishness, his hunger for attention and your allegiance to him became stronger- like a hypnotic trance. And so, I prayed for you to awaken.
I love you. I get it that you want to believe you didn’t make a mistake choosing him. There’s no need to justify or apologize. Just let go. Do it now. It’s okay to let go of him now. I will support you. I will not hold the past against you. I want for us to be whole again.
It’s him, not you. You are good. You wanted our lives to be better. But you must open your eyes now and see him for what he is. Hear his lies. Watch as he takes credit for things he hasn’t done. In all the time you’ve loved him he has failed you, and me, and he is failing us now. The quality of our lives and well-being with crumble in his hands if you don’t leave him. I beg of you. Please leave him before it’s too late.
There’s still time for us to heal, to be one again, to go forward in life with hope and strength and make it through the trying times together – but you have to let go of him. The time is now. This is the time to let go.
